A place to let out your feelings when you’ve been wondering about right and wrong, and to finally figure out if you were wrong in an argument that’s been bothering you. Tell us about any conflict you’ve had that didn’t involve violence. Give us both sides of the story, and find out if you’re right, or if you’re the one who messed up.

Am I The Asshole Community Rules

1. Be Civil

Attack ideas, not people. “Asshole” is the only insult allowed here. No harassment, threats, or discrimination against any group. Don’t try to diagnose people with mental or physical health issues. Assume good intent. Don’t claim posts are fake or that people are seeking validation. Report rule breaks instead of arguing about them. Upvote interesting discussions, don’t downvote just because you disagree. Do not share personal information about others without their consent. No doxing or attempts to identify or harass people outside this community.

2. Poster Requirements

You must be at least 18 years old to post here. You’re here for judgment, not to argue. Clarify facts if needed, but don’t debate with commenters. Use descriptive titles starting with “AITA” or “WIBTA.” Don’t delete your post for at least 48 hours. Use a throwaway account if you’re worried about privacy. Accounts that promote subscription services are not allowed.

3. No Violence

Do not mention violence in any way. This includes physical violence, threats, property damage, harm to animals, self harm, suicide, sexual misconduct, or jokes about violence. No visual content depicting violence, gore, murder, or sexual assault.

4. No Fake Posts or AI

Posts must describe real conflicts you’re involved in. Do not use AI to write, edit, translate, or modify your posts or comments. This includes ChatGPT, Grammarly, Gemini, Copilot, and similar tools. No made up stories, TV plots, thought experiments, or copy pastas. Violations may lead to a ban.

5. Banned Topics

No politics, medical conflicts, revenge stories, or topics that always lead to the same arguments. No illegal content. No misinformation that could cause physical harm to people. Retired topics include airplane seating, inheritance, splitting restaurant bills, relationships, and violence.

6. Post Real Conflicts Between People

Posts must focus on real world conflicts between people you know in real life. Include what action you took and how the other person responded. No online conflicts or conflicts with businesses, employees, or bosses.

7. Updates and Meta Posts are Restricted

Updates require mod approval and must explain how you resolved the conflict. This isn’t a saga sub. Limit yourself to three or four posts per year. Meta posts about the community go in the monthly open forum.

8. No Breakups, Relationships, Sex, or Reproductive Posts

No posts about breakups, reducing contact, dating, sex, infidelity, abortion, reproduction, or sexual content involving minors or significant age gaps.

9. Mod Discretion

Moderators can remove posts, comments, or ban users even if something isn’t explicitly covered in these rules. Message mods politely if you disagree with a removal.

10. Review the FAQ

Check the frequently asked questions before posting. Message moderators if you still have questions.

11. Follow Lemmy.world Terms of Service

Please make sure you follow Lemmy.world’s Terms of Service. All Lemmy.world rules apply here, including no harassment, no discrimination, no illegal content, and no content that could cause harm to others.